Do you have a hobby? 

As a mom, I find that much of my time (outside of work) is spent wiping stuff; wiping noses, wiping counters, wiping floors, wiping butts. 

There’s a lot of cleaning as part of a momma’s daily tasks, but honestly, it’s not my favorite thing to do. Surprise right? The thing I do the most in my time, is not the thing I love to do. (Don’t get me wrong I do keep my house clean I just don’t LOVE breaking my back picking up socks off the floor, scrubbing the shower grout lines, folding loads and loads of laundry and things of that nature 🙂 )

To be really honest, I feel like I don’t love my job some days too. The stress of it, the time it takes away from being with family, the feeling that they don’t place value on employees, etc. it just doesn’t give me the warm fuzzies all the time.

All of that being said, I think it’s important for a person’s sanity and wellbeing to take a little time out of their day to do something they love. 

Everyday I think you should do something you love, even if it’s just 15 mins! Take 15 minutes for yourself and do something that will make you happy. Maybe it will help brighten other parts of your life, or just give you the motivation to get thru the stuff you don’t love doing to get to the stuff you do like to do.

So what do I like to do? 

Artsy stuff actually. I like to bake (but my waist said I can’t do this all the time!!), make beaded jewelry (after princess has gone to bed), write (obviously cause I have a blog), and I think I’m going to get into some modern calligraphy, maybe throw a little paint in the mix somewhere. 

I actually got some books in the mail today that I will be reading. (My reading choices are scattered and I’m not ashamed to admit that I love reading what the bookstores classify as teen fantasy fiction: Harry Potter, Twilight, the Lunar Chronicles series etc 🙂 )
I mean when I find the time of course. 

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Checking those Chompers Out

baby girl’s first trip to the dentist.

i know how she is at the doctor’s office: she loves them! she hugs them and talks to them and lets them check her .. except when they pull that tongue depressor out. you know the big popsicle stick? yeah she hatesssss that thing.

i was never sure if its because they check in her mouth, or because the depressor pressing on your tongue is super uncomfortable or what. so i was very apprehensive about this checkup and her reaction.

i found a pediatric dentist specifically because they work with kids all the time and have fun offices. the kind with stickers, and kids movies playing on TV, and fun beach scenes painted on the walls. the kind with a treasure box of prizes you get to choose from, and princess toothbrushes you get to take with you after you leave. (my dentist told me i could bring her there but her office is not “fun.” it is very adult and i never get to choose a surprise from the treasure box after they finish cleaning my teeth.)


anyway got recommended a good pediatric dentist and today was the day.


she was happy when we picked her up early and even let the nice front desk lady take her picture. she found a book to read and we saw that Frozen was playing in the office. not to mention it was Pajama Day in the office so all the staff was dressed in pajamas and big fuzzy fun slippers.


after weighing her (30 lbs!) her excitement pretty much ended.  they were taking X-rays.

the lady show’d her the “cookies” she had to bite onto and the camera “gun” that she would use but mini only let us do 2 of the 4 scans. she starting a fit after seeing the 3rd cookie was clipped into a bigger stick thing she’d have to bite onto (i hate that thing too) so they tried with the “spaceship” X-ray machine and she wasn’t having that either. (you basically stand and bite onto something much smaller but these little plastic arms touch your temples and you have to have your arms out and hold these handles on the thing. she was not about that life either.

we moved onto the main event of the cleaning where they showed her all the different tools and let her touch them and play with them but she DID NOT want to lay on that damn chair. not even to watch Frozen on the TV that was overhead. since when does my daughter not want to watch FROZEN? she really at this point didn’t even want to touch the tools when they were showing her how they felt.

the lady conceded and started only with a regular toothbrush but after babygirl got a little more comfortable she let her use the spinning one. her mistake was trying to clean the teeth in the back, and all hell kind of broke loose after. baby girl clammed up and didn’t want any parts of the rest of the visit. not even to let her look in her mouth with the little mirror. it was bad y’all. so bad. she didn’t want to lay down, didn’t even want to sit in the damn chair anymore.

both D and I tried to console her, reason with her, hold her hand, rub her legs, pat her back, wipe her tears, get her to just calm down. (there was a mom with her daughter two chairs over who looked over with that face that said she felt my pain, you know that helplessness you feel when your kid is crying and nothing you do is helping and you know your kid needs to suck it up anyway cause this is for their own good?  i felt her sending her positive vibes our way. but to no avail. )the hygienist gave mini her own stick mirror to have and she still wouldn’t let her look in her mouth. D tried showing her that it was easy and he let mini stick the mirror in his mouth, but she was not taking her turn after that .my heart was breaking for her, i hated watching her cry and kick and scream like that.

in the end we had to kind of hold her down because when the Dentist came by, she really did need to see baby girl’s mouth, and then brush the fluoride treatment on. thankfully she said her teeth look good and told us to *try* and floss with her sometimes. she could see that it was obviously going to take some time before that’s happening though. 20 good teeth and 2 X-rays later, and we booked our return appointment for 6 months from now.


and then we picked her up some popcorn chicken cause it was lunch time and she was all smiles again.

 

Weekendin Review – Meds, Cakes, Books + Sun tans

its been an exhausting week, this past one. both babygirl and I were sick with strep throat.

have you ever had it? it fricking sucks. everything hurts, eating, drinking, your body hurts, fever, you cant sleep cause everything hurts. thankfully little mama didn’t seem to have a sore throat like i did.

we are both a couple days in on our meds so thankfully we are feeling somewhat better.


even though i was under the weather i had a cake order for saturday.

a man found my page from philly, and wanted to know if i could make a cake for his friend for her birthday. you could tell he really cared about her and wanted to be able to give her something she wanted especially since he couldn’t be here to give it to her himself.

she wanted a kit kat and strawberry cake. i was confused because i thought he was saying a strawberry or kit kat cake (i have pics of both on my site) but he kept saying no kit kat strawberry. then i realized he wanted them together (as he had been saying all along, to make a cake i didn’t have pictured).

i hope she enjoyed eating it as much as i did making it!

3 layers of chocolate fudge cake, with cut strawberries and chopped kit kat nestled in the vanilla frosting middles, and then surrounded by a kit kat border.

all topped with whole fresh strawberries.  and more chopped kit kat.

since it was kind of a birthday gift from him, i added in the red “Happy Birthday Joanne” and he later told me that red is actually her favorite color!
i took baby girl to Barnes & Noble to read some books as we waited to meet the special lady and give her the cake.

 

 

She had fun “reading” all the books in the kids section, and she let me read her a couple too.


(on sunday she even told me she was going to the store to get books, i love it !)

i hope to instill in her a love for reading, like i had when i was a kid. i think it really helped with building my vocabulary , good spelling, and using proper grammar.


sunday i decided we needed to get out the house and see some sun. we put on our bathing suits and headed to the pool for a bit.


then my aunts family came to visit as they were in town. 🙂

 

Convos with a toddler- ep.2

Backstory: we are driving in the nearby town center and pass some places including a place that sells mainly salads

 

Mini: I want go there (the salad place)

Me: mama you don’t want to go there. They have salad.

Mini: I want to go there.

Me: you don’t eat salad. We have to go somewhere else anyway.

Mini: yeah

(We go to Joann’s -my happy craft place-and get what we came for and get back in the car)

Mini: I want to eat the salad.

 


 

Backstory: Dwight got a shake for us to share.

Mini is checking us out in the front seat passing the shake back and forth.

 

Mini: I want some

D: ok you can have a little…. Do you like it?

Mini: yes I like it (Gives it to me.) mommy likes it.

D: yes mommy likes it but she wanted me to get a different one.

(I’m still trying to pull some thru the straw cause the Oreo pieces are blocking the flow)

Mini: daddy, mommy’s not sharing, I want some

i look incredulously at d who is laughing


 

Backstory: d got me skittles and bri some chips from the gas station. He comes back to the car trying to hide the bag and slyly passes me the skittles.

 

Mini: what is that

D: I got something for mommy

Mini: I want some

D: you don’t even know what it is, and it’s for mommy

Mini: I want some

D: but I got something for you too (proceeds to hand her the bag)

Mini: (eyes open wide) oooh look what I found mommy ta da

Mini: (heard me eating skittles) what you got there

Convos with a Toddler – Episode 1

so i kind of have this thing where i post my weekend recap, and i’m thinking i might start another thing of posting convos with a toddler. my toddler…

the things that come of out mini’s mouth sometimes make us laugh so hard and i love hearing what other moms say their kids said/did so i’ll post a few that i remember to start:

[ keep in mind, mini is 2.5 years old. ]


backstory: the other day i got home from running errands with my free chipotle bowl in a brown bag and found her and  D  couch, with her chicken nuggets in the microwave

 

mini: whats that

me: thats mommy’s food, i think your chicken nuggets are almost ready.

mini: i dont want chicken nuggets i want mommys food.

me: (putting groceries away) baby you aren’t going to like mommy’s food you are going to have chicken nuggets

mini: i want mommy’s food, i don’t want chicken nuggets

me: (pulls a table up to the couch with my food so i can eat, mini’s food isn’t quite ready yet)

mini: (pulls her chair up to the same table, and looks at me expectantly)i want to take a bite

me: baby you aren’t going to like mommy’s food. (takes container out of bag. its a bowl with a foil top. unwraps the foil sides and proceeds to take off cover. opens cover and guac that was stuck to top falls back into the bowl)

mini: EWWWWWWWWWWW (proceeds to throw herself back into the chair) i don’t want that i want chicken nuggets

me: 🙂 i know baby


 

backstory: it’s valentines day and D has made me Nutella strawberry french toast as im sitting at the table. he brings my plate over to me..

 

mini: ooh mommy what’s that

me & d: it’s breakfast for mommy

mini: i want to take a bite 😀 (as she smiles big and moves to sit next to me looking at my plate expectantly)


backstory: got takeout seafood for dinner and i had seared ahi tuna.

 

mini: mommy whats that? eat you food eat you dinner

me: yes this is mommy’s food you want to try?

mini: yeah (I tear a piece and give it to her)

mini: (looks at it in her fingers, licks it) ewwww i don’t like it (proceeds to hand it back)

me: argh ok.

mini: eat you food mommy

me: i am, you want to try it?

mini: yeah (conveniently forgets that she just “tried it” looks at it) i don’t like it (hands it back)

 

 

Sleepy Mommies

Hey Sleepy Mommies. and Sleepy Daddies.

(Yawwwnnnn)

Can any one of you tell me when we can expect to sleep thru the night again?

I thought baby girl was doing so good. I’ve actually never had issues with her sleeping or staying asleep thru the night…

But now when it comes time for bed, one of us has to stay in the room til she is fast asleep. I mean like passed out sleeping. If you so much as tip toe out when the deep breathing starts (but she’s not actually asleep) she is quick to remind you that your job is not over, you need to lay back down and she does this quite effectively by crying out for whoever is on sleep patrol that night. I’m not complaining, I don’t mind staying in her room til she falls asleep, but on some nights (like Sunday) I spent over an hour laying on the floor while she just looked around the room, sleep no where in sight ! I left, I told her I was coming right back (lies) and I thought she would quiet herself enough to fall asleep on her own.

It didn’t. She opened her door and came out crying for me to lay down with her. That’s not even my biggest issue though. It’s that she doesn’t stay asleep thru the night.

Ever since we took the bar off her crib, and made it more into a daybed, she has the ability to climb out by herself in the morning. But she has taken it upon herself to climb out in the earlyyy morning, and try to get in mommy & daddy’s bed. It’s generally between 1-4 am that it happens and we are so tired we just let her.

Butttttt babygirl is a wild sleeper ! She tosses and turns, lays her hands and feet all over the place and sometimes rolls on top of you. It doesn’t make for very restful sleep, let me tell you. She sometimes finds it most comfortable to roll around til she is perfectly  perpendicular. That means we pushed to both ends of the bed and her feet are in someone’s stomach, and her beautiful big head in another’s.

Last night D took her back to her room for the first time. She went down easily but a few hours later she was back in our room and calling for me.(Probably calling for me and not for daddy cause he made her sleep in her bed hahahahaha)

Hopefully she will remember that she likes a full nights rest soon and stay in her own bed thru the night!

Traveling with Toddlers!

This past weekend was the Fourth of July.

What a fun holiday to celebrate right? Food, family, fireworks!

We spent our holiday with Ds family in Chicago. Which meant we had to get on a plane with a two year old…

Traveling with a two year old requires a lot of patience, snacks and pre planning in my opinion lol.

First you should make sure your airline allows a two year old to be a lap baby or else you will end at the check in counter trying to catch your flight only to find out you need to buy another ticket on an almost full flight of a holiday weekend. Yeah that happened.

Also I bought the cutest Doc McStuffins mini bookbag, so she could feel like a big girl with her own bag. I put a few coloring books, crayons, some reading books and two dolls in it. I thought it would be great to keep her busy while on the plane and while away from all her usual toys but I didn’t anticipate her wanting to open it at every moment while we were at the airport. She was so excited to have it and wear it though, I don’t blame her.

(This is the bag. got it from target for like $12? They had a few other mini bookbags; HelloKitty, a monkey, a bear. I thought about looking for a leash/bag but D said he wouldn’t talk to me if i got her one hahahahaha)

(This is her wearing it at home the day i bought it. Obviously I need to rethink where I leave things because i didn’t intend for her to see it til we were at the airport 🙂 )

We ended up having to wait at the gate, while on the plane before taking off, and after landing on the runway. This meant a lot of wait time which equates to hungry bellies. Thank God for goldfish. And granola bars. And beef jerky sticks.

She actually did really well on the plane all things considered. And having our umbrella stroller with us was awesome. We left it right before we got on the plane and they give it to you right after you land.

Other than that we had a great weekend.

A lot of D’s family hadn’t had the chance to meet baby girl yet so they were besides themselves with her personality and vocabulary and facial expressions. And she was loving every minute of the attention, all of the kisses, and a break from a regular routine (which meant staying way up past bedtime).

When we finally came back home she slept a good 12 hours! Poor thing was exhausted from all the festivities!

(This is a picture i took while in Chicago. I don’t know if you can tell but the pink truck says “Cupcake Gangsters.”  We thought it was funny)  
I hope you had a wonderful holiday as well!

Teaching by doing

one of babygirl’s presents this year was a big one.

i was contemplating getting it for her for this past christmas but decided to wait, and im glad i did.

i looked at a few for her birthday and found one i liked, i saved it to my favorites so i could find it easier when i was ready to actually purchase it. but when i was ready it wasn’t saved as i thought, so i searched “pretend play kitchen” and went thru the pages of results to find the one i liked again.

but before i found the one i had my eyes set on, i found this beautiful kitchen. it had a backsplash, and a chalkboard on the fridge and was made of wood. the knobs made the click sound when you turn them and there was plenty of space to put things away in the “stove” or “dishwasher” or even to hang on the knobs about the “burners”. don’t get me wrong, there is nothing bad about the plastic ones that everyone is used to, but this one, it was perfect. it had the look of a good sturdy toy, and the appearance of an updated kitchen i wish i had for myself. yeah it was going to cost a little more but if it would last a long time and make my princess happy, it would be money well spent.

we put it together the night before the party and it did take some time. i’d say no less than 3 hours with all of the pieces and hardware, but the resulting piece was impressive. we hid it in our closet to reveal to her after the party ended. we covered it with a sheet and brought it out to her to reveal for herself. she pulled the sheet off and omg her little face was priceless. she IMMEDIATELY ran over to open all the doors and see and touch everything. she wasted no time in calling over her friend so she could come play house with her. it made my heart melt. one of her other birthday gifts was a basket of pretend food that went perfectly with the kitchen and she knew exactly what to do with it all! She took the broccoli and put it under the “faucet” and washed the greens before placing them in the fridge. It was the cutest thing ever!
And it reminded me that she is really learning by watching what i do. I am teaching her by just doing what i do everyday! It may seem small and insignificant that she “washed the food” but it goes to show how much they take note and emulate what we do. It is why I always try to be a better woman, so she will learn too.

Something that my mom said to me, this past weekend, was that I always try to do so much for my daughter. That even when i am exhausted I still keep going to make things as good as i can for mini, including everything i did to make her party “perfect.” And that made me smile because hopefully mini notices too, hopefully she sees how much i love her and how much i would do and will always do. i hope that she sees how much i try to be better for her and i hope she will emulate that too…